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The Couple’s Guide to Love & Money
in boom times, money is a volatile topic for couples. Study after study has
shown it to be a primary cause of arguments and divorce, and in today’s grim
economic climate it’s a source of friction for even the most harmonious
couples. Dwindling retirement funds, a beleaguered stock market, and
skyrocketing real estate prices, have raised the decibel level of disputes over
money and driven some couples into an all-out war over how to manage their
In his private practice psychologist Jonathan Rich has seen economic
factors take an increasing toll on relationships and it’s why he wrote
The Couple’s Guide to Love &
Money. While dips in the economy can heat up disagreements about money,
Rich says the real source of the problem is that everyone has a particular
“financial personality” that influences their choice of lifestyle, their
financial risk tolerance, and their willingness to accept financial help from
outside sources. When disparate personalities get together the sparks can fly.
Couple’s Guide to Love & Money Rich shows readers how to avoid the
pitfalls that clashing money personalities can create. With step-by-step
exercises and no-nonsense advice he shows readers how to:
Identify their own and their
partners’ financial personality;
Merge different financial
Communicate effectively about
Negotiate money hot spots; and
Achieve their financial goals.
also shows readers how their past experiences help to determine their financial
personalities and how to stop ghosts from their financial past from dictating
how they manage their money and communicate with their partners about finances.
He then provides sound strategies for creating a secure financial future,
building wealth, and staying clear of excessive debt.
The Couple’s Guide to Love & Money is required reading for
anyone who wants to recession-proof their relationship.
Suggested Interview Questions
In the beginning of
The Couple’s Guide to Love & Money you say that “nothing is
more personal than money.” Can you explain this?
Why is money such a volatile topic
You have a chapter dedicated to the
different ways in which men and women think and talk about money. How do
attitudes toward money differ along gender lines and what are “Andro and Gyno
The core idea of your book is that
while economic volatility can intensify arguments about money, at the source of
these disputes is really a difference in “financial personalities.” What is
a “financial personality” and how can couples with clashing financial
personalities resolve conflicts?
Let’s take a hypothetical couple
with conflicting financial personalities. Jane is a Spartan and her husband Paul
is a Monarch. Their having an argument over how much money they should spend on
a luxury item—a new stereo, for example—that Jane thinks is unnecessary and
Paul says he can’t live without. First, what suggestions would you give them
for diffusing the argument and then what would you recommend for creating a
budget for luxury items that both Jane and Paul can live with?
Are there problems that can arise
from couples having similar financial personalities?
What is “the money circle” and
why do your recommend creating one?
How do childhood experiences shape
adult attitudes toward money?
Debt is a serious problem for many
couples and a source of tremendous strife within relationships. What are a few
tips for avoiding excessive debt and what is “reasonable debt?”
What is a “financial set point”
and how can someone discover and change it?
About the Author of
The Couple’s Guide to Love & Money