are lots of books around to tell you what to do with your money. Iíve read
many of them and you may have too. Theyíll tell you to: "Buy stocks and
hold onto them a long time"; "Pay yourself first"; "Work
hard and be clever"; "Pay off the debt you have, and cut up all you
Okay, so Iím oversimplifying. But this
is my point: while you sit in your easy chair, reading financial guides and
dreaming about how youíre going to get rich, your partner may be yelling at
you about paying the overdue bills or needing a new car. Or maybe you opened the
credit card statement, and now youíre the doing the yelling?
When you were a teenager, it was pretty
easy to fall in love. So easy, that most of us did it several times a month. In
adulthood, love takes on a whole new, more serious flavor. Your partner is still
the same, wonderful person who first attracted you. That person still has the
same wonderful qualities that fascinated you, and brought you joy. But, somehow,
life itself has gotten a lot more serious.
Money is no longer just the extra spending
cash that you pick up at summer jobs; itís the stuff that you both need Ė to
eat, to keep a roof over your heads, and to keep your lifestyle going. And
unless your partner is your identical clone, he or she has different ideas about
such questions as, "how much money do we need?" "Where should it
come from?" and "Where should it go?"
Part I of this book will help you and your
partner figure out how getting and spending money is interwoven with your
emotions and, of course, with your relationship. Moreover, this workbook can
help you sort out how money has come between you.